e gender confusion

i admire what shixiong said e other day while in a girl's car. at times it was chauvinistic, i admit. but i admired his assertiveness. we got caught in some gender stereotypin, n shixiong was blunt in his message. "what gender equality do females want, if, as and when they like, they're proponents of double standards themselves?" -in response to driver's displeasure at chauffeuring us, and tt guys sld chauffeur girls. (shixiong was especially offended as he had once went out of his way to chauffeur her to n fro her house to help her retrieve sth impt.) he had no shame.

instead, e assertiveness shone thru to me. im one who always preach to my male friends tt a rship is 2-way, n guys sld never always give in. we have to love ourselves juz like we know girls love themselves alot. indeed, i know of many girls who dun want at-ur-service guys. only when u can cherish urself, will u be able to cherish ur partner better.

do spore women expect too much? (ST, 24/2/08) by a female journalist

women's expectations of their male dates are more like they're going out with Prince Charming than a real, live man. such mindsets and expectations set the feminist movement back 50 years.

"some women are hypocritical as they demand to be taken seriously and treated equally, but when it comes to dating etiquette, they expect their boyfriends to attend to their every need", female, senior marketin n communications consultant

"women set standards selectively. in certain areas, they want us to perform to their expectations. yet at other times, they want to have their say. they are sending mixed signals and they confuse us sometimes", male

"if you expect the man to accept you as his equal, you can't also expect him to run around treating you like a porcelain doll on a pedestal. it just does not make sense in our modern world", female

"singaporean women should take time off to reflect upon themselves and see how they can meet men's expectations", female, dating agency's founder

"how do these women expect to be taken seriously or seen as an equal? if it makes your man happy to do these things, it's perfectly ok to let him. but we set ourselves up for failure and disappointment when we put pressure on the opposite sex to do all the things that we're perfectly capable of doing", female, image consultant

hey. truth is. guys have no qualms openin doors for u, payin for things, or carryin ur stuff. but it comes from e heart. if these become 'expected', then it's a chore n we're turned off. dun be offended juz bcoz ur a female lah. as e New woman, u sld know there are hypocritical females out there. if ur not one, ur not one. look at this w an open mind. girls juz wanna be loved. we know it, please. it's juz sickenin when u fight tooth n nail w us abt equality, n nxt moment hypocritically - n w a swing of ur hair - expect us to serve u. please, this is not an MCP post.